Tripp, Paul David creator text Crossway Books 2010 monographic When couples do not take the Bible seriously, they are caught short in the moment, when the rubber meets the road in daily life, where grace is their only hope. "So, when you are sinned against or when the fallen world breaks your door down, don't lash out or run away. Stand in your weakness & confusion and say, 'I am not alone. God is with me, & He is faithful, powerful & willing.' Be realistic and hopeful at the same time. Realistic expectations are not about hope without honesty, & they are not about honesty without hope. Realism is found at the intersection of unabashed honesty & uncompromising hope. God's Word & God's grace make both possible. "Are your expectations for your marriage realistic?" (Tripp)